First before I go any further, the Lord gave me these scriptures to write on. My wife and I in our twenty years I believe have really embraced what I’m writing on. It’s one of the reasons I feel I have some good things to share. Also I know that the world and the church as a whole struggles with this today. I believe almost a hundred percent of marriages must address this at one point, especially when the world really contradicts the Word of God says in this area.
1 Corinthians 7:1-6 – 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. 2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
Verse one. Is Paul stating he’s against marriage? No.
What he is saying is that if you can stay single it will allow you to dedicate more time to the Lord if you’re living to serve Him.
Paul knew the reality though. He’s letting all of us know, if you can’t be single without constantly having to fulfill those needs that should be in marriage, by all means marry. There is too much immorality that will take place if you don’t.
That’s what leads into the next portion of scripture. Selfish people argue their body is just their own. As a Christian that philosophy fails twice. First Christ paid the penalty of sin and you were bought with a price. We are supposed to be now His. Second, you made a commitment in marriage that the two flesh will become one. That’s in all areas. As spouses we are to work together and help each other out. When we don’t die to our selfish nature and do that, Satan gets a foothold.
Women, we have an epidemic of half the marriages failing for many different reasons, but we can’t be taking the position that my body is my own. Men, quit being selfish. We might only have a few needs, but we need to die to ourselves so we are meeting the needs our wives.
When we shut down and say, “Fine, if they won’t help me here then I’m not helping them there,” we give the devil a foothold in our marriage.
We need to be servants especially to each other. It was the second biggest example Christ gave us in His first time down here. First was that we should love the Father with all our heart, soul, and mind.
Selfish leads to selfish. Selfish leads to sin. Christian ladies, don’t fall in the trap that the world sets that your body is your own. In abortion they use that argument to murder unborn children. Do you believe God went to the trouble of creating a life so the woman can make the decision on rather to end it?
Men and Women both have needs and the needs are real. Both must communicate and meet those needs. Then Satan has one less very important area to attack you in.